"You’ll be fine. You’re 25. Feeling [unsure] and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be okay. Even if you don’t feel okay all the time."
“I was taking a law school admissions test in a big classroom at Harvard. My friend and I were some of the only women in the room. I was feeling nervous. I was a senior in college. I wasn’t sure how well I’d do. And while we’re waiting for the exam to start, a group of men began to yell things like: ‘You don’t need to be here.’ And ‘There’s plenty else you can do.’ It turned into a real ‘pile on.’ One of them even said: ‘If you take my spot, I’ll get drafted, and I’ll go to Vietnam, and I’ll die.’ And they weren’t kidding around. It was intense. It got very personal. But I couldn’t respond. I couldn’t afford to get distracted because I didn’t want to mess up the test. So I just kept looking down, hoping that the proctor would walk in the room. I know that I can be perceived as aloof or cold or unemotional. But I had to learn as a young woman to control my emotions. And that’s a hard path to walk. Because you need to protect yourself, you need to keep steady, but at the same time you don’t want to seem ‘walled off.’ And sometimes I think I come across more in the ‘walled off’ arena. And if I create that perception, then I take responsibility. I don’t view myself as cold or unemotional. And neither do my friends. And neither does my family. But if that sometimes is the perception I create, then I can’t blame people for thinking that.”
In my law school, in 2010, a male student demanded why women were taking up the slots and jobs that should be filled by men with families to support. My class was less than 30% female.
A male judge in a trial advocacy tournament told me to tone down my cross-examination, that I couldn’t afford to come off as a “bitch.” He let my male opponent verbally shred his witness.
In high school, a judge at my forensics tournament told me I’d gotten a better score than my female competitors because I had a lower, more masculine voice and it was more pleasant to listen to.
In middle school, a male math teacher in an accelerated spatial reasoning course told the class that girls’ brains weren’t developed for spatial reasoning the way boys’ were, and that we wouldn’t do as well as the boys. I got a B+ in that class–the lowest grade I ever got in middle and high school.
But I went to law school because women like Hillary Rodham paved the way. I became a lawyer because women like her fought and argued and proved their–our–worth. I’ve been lucky to have amazing opportunities and challenges in my career, but it’s due to my foremothers that I ever got this far.
During the month of March, LIFE will be celebrating the great women who photographed for the magazine. Along with portraits in the feed, we will also feature stories with iconic and rarely seen photos. Next up is Nina Leen - although never a staff photographer, she was a regular contributor to the magazine for over 30 years covering everything from fashion to animals to JFK. Pictured here is from a fashion story about Joan Crawford style in 1959. (Nina Leen—The LIFE Picture Collection/Getty Images) #fashionfriday #NinaLeen #WomensHistoryMonth
this “bon appetit” meme has turned into some sort of bizarre telephone game where each incarnation sounds more and more different than the original. in what way does “bon appetit” sound like “osteoporosis”
i don’t know but it’s cracking me up every time i even think about it
guys guys guys
‘osteoporosis’ is a disease in which bone mass decreases
if your skin starts clearing up after you stop talking to someone…it’s a sign
same goes for if your body starts to physically feel better after you stop talking to someone, that is also a sign. You used to always feel sick and in pain then that stress was gone from your life.
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